All of us carry some kind of messaging around being seen.
Being seen may cause a lot of discomfort or activation in our nervous system.
Or maybe our messaging was more about being heard. “Seen not heard”
Or perhaps we carry both messages and it is safer to remain both “Not seen and not heard.”
I believe in addition to our early caregiver’s messaging this resistance to being seen actually comes from not being seen for who we truly are. A spirit and a soul carried by our body.
When we are not seen or heard in our earliest experiences of pain, deep feeling and sensitivity we develop the belief that we can’t be seen.
Our feelings have a lot to do with who we are and if we were not recognized for our feelings as young children they can grow in unhealthy ways, they begin to live a life in our psyche and subconscious world, where they can be seen.
If a feeling cannot be expressed it is empties into our subconscious container. The feeling stays to protect us in our nervous system. It gets wired into the system and senses as a stress response. It becomes aroused or activated by something in our environment and it learns to dictate our responses and reactions to life.
When we begin the deep and powerful work of raising our feelings, parenting ourselves, we are seeing ourselves finally. And tending to our inner being. We can enter our subconscious being, consciously by doing this, reinforcing our healthy patterns and transforming our negative beliefs. We turn the light of our consciousness on.
It doesn't have to take a lifetime to change the belief that I cannot be seen for who I truly am… so why bother. It can happen as gently and softly as allowing the flower to open. With being present for that opening and truly seeing it.
I recommend a practice of being seen. Daily or weekly videos for yourself practicing speaking about something that means alot to you. Perhaps something you are afraid of being seen for and yet something so true to who you are. Seeing yourself in this way will begin to flower your expression of self in life. We all want to be seen in our spirit and our consciousness. First we must practice seeing ourselves. Making videos for myself and then having the courage to share them here and with close circles was a powerful experience for me. Please share any thoughts you have and perhaps a video too!
I see you. I hear you. You are important. You are so loved.
